tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5015727982590573796.post8747420582469566405..comments2023-08-12T08:49:07.708-04:00Comments on Thoughts from The Other Side of the Mountain: What we see...Part IJust Mairshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17351598006358891645noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5015727982590573796.post-51638455483856162262008-08-22T18:06:00.000-04:002008-08-22T18:06:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry that Ben was reprimanded, too--for do...I'm so sorry that Ben was reprimanded, too--for doing what Mom and Dad asked, doing the right thing for his brother. :(<BR/><BR/>Much of what you said applies to those of us with "regular" kids, too--ooh, that sounds like mine eat bran. I get frustrated with my parents for telling me "don't be so hard on ___" when they don't see the whole picture.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the reminder for when I encounter other parents doing what is right for their children.LucisMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03619129172904595176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5015727982590573796.post-72271315535207478462008-08-20T12:15:00.000-04:002008-08-20T12:15:00.000-04:00I am just coming into the criticisms as an expecta...I am just coming into the criticisms as an expectant mother. (Don't eat honey and don't drink non-organic milk are some of the pieces of "advice" I've been given.)<BR/><BR/>I love reading the whys and wherefores of your disciplinary policies. They seem sensible and effective at getting your children to grow the way they need to.magdahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07869042484263319553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5015727982590573796.post-50895562888934895122008-08-20T00:12:00.000-04:002008-08-20T00:12:00.000-04:00I think you did a great job of explaining a strugg...I think you did a great job of explaining a struggle that I--again--can completely relate to. <BR/><BR/>It is very frustrating as the father of a teenager who is still dealing with these issues to be counseled by others who are basing their assessment of his behavior on the hour or two they see him carrying a candle each week. I know they totally meant well, but for two years I was told that I'm too hard on him, or am making his life too difficult, when all I was doing was enforcing the consequences for his actions (which is not an easy task, especially when the thing you wish you could truly do is just smother them with everything they want, but to be honest--I don't think anyone can handle being handed <I>everything</I> they want!) <BR/><BR/>But, as I commented before, our job is to give them what they <I>need,</I> and children with special needs require special attention and specific courses of action in order to hopefully achieve behavioral goals. Sometimes they may look odd to others looking into our families. <BR/><BR/>It hasn't been until recently, when he became comfortable enough with the people in church to begin unleashing these behaviors on them, that they've come to me to see how they can help me promote more appropriate behaviors and hold him accountable for his actions, or asking my permission to issue consequences of their own.Donhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07489955518434293078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5015727982590573796.post-43312150671138466532008-08-19T23:24:00.000-04:002008-08-19T23:24:00.000-04:00Thanks so much for the response!It must have been ...Thanks so much for the response!<BR/><BR/>It must have been very disheartening for Ben to be reprimanded for being so responsible. Early lesson in "no good deed goes unpunished." :( Fortunately God sees them.<BR/><BR/>I hope you'll continue to write as you think of things or encounter good and bad public responses to your family, so that we can learn from both.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04692552241491427101noreply@blogger.com